1st7

Why First Seven Matters So Deeply to Me

My own journey of healing and wanting to find an answer to pain and suffering began in my first seven years of life.

I suffered disconnection and neglect as a first child with a young, traumatised mother who simply could not bond with me, and by the time I was learning language, I had learned it was not safe to speak my truth.

Since then, I have been on a journey to find the root cause of suffering.

 

Myself at 3, my life force already quelled

I dedicated myself to becoming a GP — a family doctor — taking an interest in everyone, from pregnancy to children, the care of the elderly, and those who were dying.

After several decades, the modernisation and demands of medical practice left me spending more time on computers, prescriptions and administration than in face-to-face connection, and I was losing what I believed was most necessary: time to sit and listen, time to say,

"I see you, I hear you, I understand what you are going through."

I trained in Gestalt psychotherapy thinking I would improve my connection as a GP, but instead found it impossible. The clinical practice I was in could not stretch to more than six-minute appointments. I practised as a Gestalt psychotherapist separately for several decades, yet began to feel that it took too long for change to happen — and I saw that the really deep trauma did not shift with talk therapy.

Eighteen years ago, I made a radical decision. I left both medicine and psychotherapy to search for "another way". From that search, Quantum Energy Coaching (QEC) was born.

Grounded in neuroscience, epigenetics, principles from quantum physics, and Gestalt enquiry, QEC works directly with the subconscious patterns that underlie present-day struggles — particularly those rooted in trauma.

What became increasingly clear to me is this: much of what limits us is not consciously chosen. It was learned. And most of that learning occurred in the first seven years of life.

For eighteen years I have helped adults unwind patterns that were formed in those early years. Again and again, I see the same truth: we are living out programmes that were installed before we had language.

This realisation has shifted something profound in me.

What if we could intervene while the wiring is still fluid? What if, instead of spending decades unwinding trauma, we could gently prevent certain patterns from hardening in the first place?

This is the heart of The First Seven.

The work is not done directly with the child. It is undertaken through subtle, careful surrogate QEC work with the parent or caregiver— supporting the relational field in which the child's brain is wiring itself.

After a lifetime devoted to relieving suffering, I now feel called to explore something even more foundational: can we reduce future suffering by supporting the brain while it is still forming?

I am now beginning formal research into the impact of surrogate QEC work during the first seven years of life. When we intervene early, we are not simply helping an individual — we are potentially influencing a life trajectory.

For me, this is not a professional pivot. It is the natural evolution of everything I have sought my entire life:

to understand suffering.
to reach its roots.
and to offer hope — not only for recovery, but for prevention.

The First Seven is, in many ways, the beginning of everything.